It was on this faithful day, i came across some comments on a website about this great Helper called Robinson.buckler , so many persons claimed that he help them to renew their relationship and bring their ex back, i had to contact him because he was my last hope. It is the responsibility of BOTH parents to make sure theyre kids are taken care of!!!!! If she was good before with what she received why complain and ask for more now Theres something that has to be done, I struggled for many years as a single mother but that didnt stop me. What the courts dont tell you is that it is possible under Federal law to use a private agreement for child support. Courts awarded her $1000/mo because of the RENTAL value of the church house we were living in (we could not profit from rental or sale of this houseit belonged to the church). There should be an accounting of where the $ goes and when the kids are in school both parents should be forced to get a job and work to support the children especially if child support is ordered. Here are four of the most critical flaws of the current child support system. If you need or want help collecting child support, you may apply for assistance online from the Child Support Division of the Texas Attorney General's Office (OAG), or call the toll-free number (800) 252-8014. I am a mother of 3 and when my oldest was 12 I started receiving child support, just last September their dad stoooed working because of an injury. Child Support is a SCAM! Could you contact me via email, I have some questions that I am sure you could lend me some advice on. So when you actually do get out, you are in debt, and the cycle continues. The problem is not every case is the same. For young fathers who are struggling with finishing school or entering a new job, being ordered to pay child support until the child becomes an adult is challenging, even if the amount is minimal. Worat thing is my son wont see most of that money, he wont have a college fund because I still have to get him clothes that fit and school supplies. It doesnt work like that in Missouri. We lived in Florida. View a full listing of offices nationwide. . Thats why I suggest every man I meet in US suggest, dont marry at all in US, use her as girlfriend, and dont have kids until you really observe her for many years maybe 10+ yrs. In MO as a father you have no rights. while also stripping her of her God-given talent and love for caring for those precious kiddos. What your mother is doing is illegal. Just saying. get all the tax breaks like earned income tax credit, child care credit, and they can deduct the kids from their income. Yes I have a good job. I pay $530 a month for 1 child i have a great job with lots of hours and great pay but my job lost the contract to the city that i work in due to being underbid by another company i have been working in the same city for 9 years this recently happend in november my hours went from 60-65 a week to 40 i also have 3 more kids with my wife all of this was pit into how much i would be paying and the number they came up with $530 a month i filled the paper work to see if they can drop the payment i filled out all the paper work they sent for me to fill out i sent my past w2s to show how much it dropped sent check stubs from last year and some from this year showing how much it dropped this was 2 months ago i have yet to get a single letter or phone call about it im struggling every week withy bills and my wife cant find work its really hard. Research has shown that men with outstanding child support debts tend to be less involved in their childrens lives. She kept filling my daughters head with nonsense about me leaving her so I was having to try to explain that I would never leave her I just left her mother. Divorce courts are gender biased in favor of women and women get custody of the children the majority of the time. As we all now those numbers are not based in reality. That will eat up $750 a month, by itself. I hear women I would say 97% of the time now saying they need to find a Baby daddy so they can get a new paycheck this is reality what are we going to do about this!!! Lets do more to fight this injustice. The working dad (or in some cases mom..change the names per situation) gets a huge bill each month while the mother does whatever she wants with the $. Being the monetary and human being support system for said child. If they didnt want the above, they would have listened to Karen DeCrow. Your judgement obviously stinks! The core of the problem with modern child support laws is that there is too much emphasis on enforcement and not enough focus on getting fathers involved in their childrens lives. How can you justify $1,000.00 in support monthly? Shell have her day to pay for all the wrong shes doing. After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time . The whole system is punitive, if I lose my job and cant afford an attorney to get my payments reduced they threaten to take away drivers license or put you in jail. Daycare, my foot. We could split the cost of the 4 days or better yet split the time and make it an even 50/50. The kids are the ones who suffer from this unjust law. Musk's daughter legally changed her gender identity when she turned 18. You have your freedom. Lisa although I understand from your perspective you share about single mothers. Like the father would not pay for 2 years an guess what not once did he go to court or see a jail cell for it an he owed over $1000 so why isnmy wife being brought to court for $250 an he doesnt get brought into court for $1000. She told them due to all her disabilities she had to apply for ssi an they dont care they say she still has to work even though alot of professionals told her that she cant. Your email address will not be published. Parents shouldnt have to or need to agree to have 50/50.That is not a 50/50 state. Its sickening. The custodial parent is otherwise irresponsible, such as being unable to get the child to school, substance abuse, physical abuse, etc. You want your kids? In the state of Wisconsin, if the mother has primary placement of he child and receives ANY kind of state aid, for her, the child in question, or children with another man, child support is required to be paid. I know how all of these fathers feel. Whete is the one that hey no suppory bit see the other drvelopment better. The scam has been enhanced by the payment of incentives by the federal child support collection office to each states collection agency. Ive experienced the outrageous rulings of 50/50 custody when a mans psychological testing showed he was a liar, mentally unstable, and knew nothing about his own child or raising a child. Why do you say its fine to pay child support, would it not be better to have equal time with your children????? Look outside the little bubble of your life and understand that people that have less in life still have children and bad things happen to people. System is outdated and unfair. And my 3 are the oldest. That is why they fight shared parenting legislation!? She refused to let the kids see their dad unless he joined her religion- so he did. I used to give him money for food on his weekends so that he would not cancel on them. If a father becomes unemployed and then takes a lower-paying job, a reconsideration of the amount of child support due might be appropriate. This lady is a classic example of someone who abuses and takes advantage of the system and the courts do nothing. Catch 22. The custodial parent is also responsible for all of the childs needs majority of the time, thats not easy. To make it worse, my daughter, was diagnosed at the age of 10 with a brain tumor and severe brain swelling. It used to be closer to 95% of the time, so some progress has been made. It was set at about 25 percent of monthly gross wages for the minimum wage back when the support order was put in place back 10 years ago or so. I have since raised all of the children, with the Lord and the crumbs he provided for child support. Instead, CSS has helped her collect half of my check for my entire adulthood. All report similiar injustices when we share stories. Finally,,,! My older cousin put himself on child support because his babys mother was upset that he wanted nothing to do with her but everything to do with their son so she started threatening him that he wouldnt be allowed to see him anymore. . Money does not and should not ever come before time spent. We will work zealously to guide you through the appeals process, ensuring that you present the proper evidence and arguments. Most normal people dont make more than 75k at a typical job. If the kids are younger than 12 they need a sitter or some adult model when moms at work. 50% joint custody. If he wants to give me all the burden of child rearing AND 90% of the expenses, then he and every parent like him (male or female) can suffer the consequences. And I have no criminal record. My son is now 12 i never asked nore put my sons father on child support all i asked of him is to be there for hes son and buy him clothes and shoes and any school needs . I am and always have been an active father. Setting us against each other and gaining revenue in the process. Id have to lawyer up though to take her back to court so the judge can slap her on the wrist and tell her to play niceor have the judge tell me that the kids are old enough to have say so and cannot be forced to come to my home. You are not entitled to them. Just splitting the bills associated with the children. Every one has their own story. My ex wife was ordered to pay $55/wk, but is now $60G behind because shes never been enforced to pay. Exactly Ban together Just because you pay more doesnt mean your better. The problem is too many people are employed in this scam. I dont need the state, court or anyone else tell me how to care for my children. Once I relocated she began to file our Tax refunds without informing me she was doing so, she filed an official child support order where I was blindsided when a County Sherrif showed up at my door (i saw my wife often, visited my son on christmas the day after she filed where her and I spoke, we lived in the same neighborhood yet she did not inform me). Both man and woman decide to lay together equally. I calmly told him why are you talking to me in a rude manner and he got pissed he told me I dont need to respect you or put up with this and hung up on me. What should we be doing about these situations? Children are not pay checks ! She got $1000/mo for one child she never let my husband or his daughters or I visit, while the rest of us had to survive on less than $1500 for three! Some fathers do not even know they have a child until they receive a notice for past due child support. Its not forever though. See the kids want 5050 I want 5050 and now my kids cant see me but 48 hours every other week and 3 hours on Wed if I can take off work. Someone had to carry the baby till birth. However if the fathers income gets reduced , there is nothing in place to take that into consideration . I think children belong with their moms with the exception that she is proven unfit. He cant afford a lawyer, and I am on disability for MS, so my kids and us strive to make it on the basics, while she is on the ball if we are 2 days late on a payment, and we end up losing food stamps or they threaten to take his license. And she saved none of the child support for the childs future, including college education. All it takes is a little bit of common sense to see that the system is extremely unrealistic and completely favors the Custodial Parent. So whatever works best for the parent is what should happen? Most kids from single families become criminals, homeless, alcohol or drug dependent. The equal earning parents then have dramatically different post-child support budgets, since one is receiving and the other is paying. I dont believe children should have to live back and forth with parents. The ex refused to settle after recieving the court finding of fact, and the financial discovery revealing that the ex spent my childs college fund to make a down payment on a house for our child. I tried to be Nice, I begged my husband to please give his kids time, love and support. You will then find that the state is the real and true DEADBEAT! Dont reproduce with someone who cant support a child if you dont want to have to pay back welfare, its really that simple. The Judge asks my council to hold a telecon with my exs council in the Judges chambers. I dont think I asked for much. It was not my choice for her to cheat For every situation you point out about terrible fathers I will point out a terrible situation that 50/50 joint custody could have prevented. She stopped letting me get my daughter giving me every excuse in the book. We see her once a month (3-4 days each month usually. It wont work. You sound like a mom that may has a deadbeat dad, envolved. As long as he is involved in there lives thats all that matters. The SYSTEM IS BROKEN!! Welp when it finally all adjudicates, $26,000.00 in legal fees later and all the alledged arearages and counterclaims for legal fees and punitive damages dropped and property lien remanded. Make sure you get a decent lawyer because shes a woman and automatically has the law on her side. Now he is going to court in a few days to show why he isnt in contempt of court and our 10 month old baby may have to see her father go to jail because of this corrupt system!!! What world are you living in? In 1986, CBS produced a report titled The Vanishing Family: Crisis in Black America, which featured a New Jersey father of six who bragged on camera about not supporting his children financially. His ex was on housing, having to list how much child support she was receiving. The more men on the system the more money the States gets from the federal Government. This problem can be easily solved with the help of an attorney. I have decided to not even communicate with his family. Before I say my opinion let me first say that able body men should pay their child support . Thanks you can email me at xrangr375(at)aol(dot)com. No, the system is not outdated youre thinking of alimony. They bribed my kids with concerts, alcohol, promoted promiscuity, made me look like ai was completely against them having any fun, when I was a considerably lax parent, and knew to pick my battles. Because my ex was denying my court ordered visitation and I spend the weekend in jail for assault. I contested for a while but in the end realized I could not keep her where she did not want to be. Hard to argue with the injustice of the overwhelming amount of evidence in support of it being just that. The problem is that the court treats kids like data on spreadsheet, not real human beings. Divorce game plan for women. Why should dads (or any parent) have to show they will be better than any other parent (real or imagined!). I happen to be familiar with the social consequences of forced paternity because my mother worked in the district attorney's office in Santa Clara County, Calif., in the . This page is dedicated to bring fathers together to fight for our rights. Any parent making that choice of money over the other does not have the childs best interest at heart and should not be the one pulling the strings. Thats a laugh. Absolutely right, Stevon! Her full intention on marrying him was do live on his salary. Its the equivalent of putting a bandage on a bullet wound, half of the parents who receive, puts the other parent in such poverty. I live in texas, so the case worker says you can file an appeal but have to be in court !! Being she makes 60k plus over you she should be getting less and paying half the insurance. Because the custodial parent (90% of the time being women). In Georgia they take into account both parents incomes and calculate CS based on the cumulative needs of the child. THE MONEY CAN BURN, it wont save anybody. We are being unfairly treated.. Im a contractor and had my exs lawyer trying to use my wages before deductions for the child support calculation As in before all the materials,fuel, and subcontractors I had paid out of it for the year. So that leaves me with 2400 for food, clothing, gas, electricity and God forbid any other unforseen expense. Your assumption is that people have children under ideal circumstances where the parents have good paying jobs, a big house with a nice picket fence, and two cars in the driveway and $1,000.00 is chump change. so the ex realizing shes lost, stops paying her attorney, and my property lien being remanded is never filed with the county recorder by the exs attorney(because the money is dried up the exs coucil drops all work on the case). This class action is on behalf of *both* types of family court for wrongful victims of divorce-and-similar-with-kids *and* for wrongful victims of child protection services and includes suing on behalf of ANY parent affected by either family court type. People make mistakes and they fall out of love, things happen. For example if my rent is $300 dollars and my child support is $500 just between rent and child support by itself that is 9600. When youre young and not knowledgeable about law, U.S. policies and your states pros/cons for single fathers trying to get rights to their child. Having children is. I still dont. That we merley are just a number to be bought and sold! The child suppprt office in South Bend, Indiana has been rude, and steretypical in being pro-woman, anti man. Family court and the laws r a joke and unfair. Second only you had the opportunity to walk away from responsibility. I have always been a strong provider and have always helped my family as best as possible while we were a unit. As a mother of 3 i really dont care if there dad oays me child support. Hes 52, and he has kids by his wife neice and daughter. Parents who pay child support and make less than 70,000 a year will simply not make it on their own. 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